Tired Of Being Tired? A Wife’s Voice
What does “tired of being tired” mean? That is the question I asked myself when I received a flier from my sister-in-law 2 years ago.
When I received the WhatsApp flier from my sister-in-law, the message resonated with what I was going through at the time. The caption on the flier read, “Are you tired of being tired?” That is what got me really interested.
I had heard of Alabastron 5 years ago from my friend but I wasn’t too keen on enrolling. We actually met when she was going to class. She just told me “I’m going for Alabastron”. I heard about it again from my sister-in-law 2 years ago. I had just had my third child and I couldn’t enroll.
I decided to enroll for the program after I saw the flier. I didn’t have an excuse this time round. I made up my mind to go for it. I had not received a lot of information about the program from either my friend or my sister-in-law but I signed up!
There were a lot of things going on at the time. A lot of things were not working. I was basically tired! I had four babies, a demanding job, my own insecurities like “Am I a good mother?” “I’ve added too much weight!”… I was overwhelmed! As a wife and a mother I was expected to be a strong woman who has everything under control...
As a wife and a mother I was expected to be a strong woman who has everything under control, yet here I was just feeling tired, overwhelmed, and feeling guilty about feeling this way. Of course my marriage suffered the most. I was moody, easily irritable, angry… I was feeling misunderstood and unappreciated. I felt like I was constantly giving and giving! My hubby couldn’t get what I was about!
As a born again Christian I resorted to praying and fasting and encouraged myself with the word of God. This is very important but it was not enough. I wanted to find ME again. I believe that God answers prayers. So Alabastron was God’s way of answering my prayers. I missed the Open Day but when I came for the first class I made a decision that Alabastron is where I needed to be. A lot of things resonated with me. I was taken through a process that helped me reconnect with myself.
Before Alabastron, I was the angry, unforgiving Joyce both at home and at work. I tried to keep myself very busy in church! I was doing a lot of things like teaching Sunday school but everything I was doing was not coming from a good place.
After completing the Renewing Self program, I found ME again! I realized I AM ENOUGH! All my insecurities are gone. I have also dealt with unforgiveness in my life. I am traveling light…lol! I can confidently say things are working for me! I found ME again! I realized I AM ENOUGH!
I now have a healthy self-esteem and my marriage is lit! I am at a good place in my marriage, in my relationships with family and friends, and even at work. I realized I AM a woman of strength and not a strong woman.
My marriage is lit! What I would like to share with a woman who is going through the same kind of things I was experiencing when I enrolled is… You can never give from an empty cup. You can never forgive if you haven’t even forgiven yourself. You cannot love if you can’t love yourself. In Marriage or any relationship, in the workplace...Fill your cup first with Love, Forgiveness, Kindness etc.
I look at myself differently. When you first love yourself, you are able to love others and even see and feel the love
It takes two to make a marriage work. If you as a woman are experiencing all sorts of things and feel stuck, you cannot give your best. You have to guard your heart and work on yourself, appreciate yourself. Nobody will appreciate you if you do not appreciate yourself.
I would also like to encourage women with one of my favorite quotes by Fawn Weaver: “A great marriage isn’t something that just happens; it’s something that must be created.”ENROLL FOR CLASS WANT TO SPEAK TO SOMEONE? MORE TRANSFORMATION STORIES