The Answer That Unlocked My Peace to All My Unanswered Questions
We’ve all experienced pain at different levels in life. However, pain can make us bitter or better. We get to choose whether or not we will grow through our pain. The answers we long to hear and understand is how do we turn our pain into lessons of growth? What do we need to unlock to help us embrace our pain, instead of being shameful? Ho do we embrace a learner’s mindset; carefully analyze our pain to acknowledge lessons that can make us become better? Alabastron’s Renewing Self program was the key that unlocked Bevaline and led her to use her pain shape the woman she is knew she can become. She shares her turn around below.
On a Saturday afternoon, Bevaline recounts how this journey has transformed who she is. In laughter and gratefulness.
“I learned about Alabastron from a friend of a relative who invited me to the open day. On attending the open day event organized at within Nairobi, I was touched by the warmth of the women who welcomed me.” She remembers vividly.
“I decided to take the program because I wanted to know how to deal with the fact that I will never find answers to all the questions I had. I also desired to become like the women who welcomed me. I longed to join these women because they willingly listened to all women without any sense of judgement.” She continues to reveal.
When I started the program, I always looked forward to what’s next. I longed to know where is this leading to, after every session. But, later on I decided to allow myself become a learner. This decision led me to understand a struggle I had in my life.
I struggled with unforgiveness. This led me to become resentful and suspicious of everything. I would be hating even on a housefly. I would wonder why is this fly only flying around my space? I was angry, bitter and I felt like the reason I was hurt was because of what people had done to me. I struggled with unforgiveness. This led me to become resentful and suspicious of everything. I would be hating even on a housefly. I would wonder why is this fly only flying around my space? I was angry, bitter and I felt like the reason I was hurt was because of what people had done to me. I didn’t realize that holding on to it was leading me to become more hurt.
I always longed to know the truth about my origin and who I was. My mother didn’t give me these answers. To make things worse, I had a strained relationship with my aunt. She came and picked me from our home and promised my mother that she would take me to school. Once we arrived at her home, the tables turned and I ended up taking care of her last born one term down the line. When my time to join the new school came through the help of my uncle, she suddenly said that my mum had requested I head back home. Occasionally, she would call me and say,” lift you head up, do you see there around that corner, that’s where your home is.”
This conversation always left me confused because I didn’t understand what she meant. When I decided to ask around what point she was driving at, I discovered that the home she kept on pointing at was my mum’s first matrimonial home. This information led me to desire to make up with the family as most of my life was full of many unknowns.
I longed to know why my life was the way it is. I felt like I need the answers for my life to continue and move on. Her actions led me to become more resentful. The guided process led me to learn how to let go. I longed to know why my life was the way it is. I felt like I need the answers for my life to continue and move on. Her actions led me to become more resentful. The guided process led me to learn how to let go. It finally dawned on me that my aunt is human and she didn’t have all the answers I was searching for. I was able to appreciate the times she held space for my growth. I was able to let her be.
This new way of doing life led me to heal. It made me become more alert with the words I choose to use as I appreciated the power of words. This made me become more accommodative and have a big heart towards people I experienced in life.
Are you in search of answers in life? Do you long to understand how to have peace around what you can’t control? Do you want to turn your life around and learn from your pain? Then click HERE and join the program.
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