My Relationship With My Daughter Has Blossomed to a Unique Experience!
I always worked towards a relationship with my daughter where there is mutual trust, confidence and healthy expression in each moment. I longed for her to have a solid foundation of her own identity and who she belonged to. Now, our relationship has blossomed into a unique experience for each of us.
I was concerned that my relationship with my teenage daughter, Myanla Kabaki, was experiencing poor communication and that she had began withdrawing from me when she was sixteen. Her value systems had seemed to have changed since she was rejecting what I had instilled in her growing up.
Initially, even when she came for the program she did involuntarily. During the program, I would find her doing the assignments from class, which I found hopeful. Until one day, she asked me, “Mum, what were you hoping to achieve when you signed me up for the program?”
..after the program...She was more assertive with her choices. She began engaging with teachers and expressing her struggles with various subjects. I could easily see her become her own self! This question led me to share with her how a program by Alabastron, Renewing Self, had impacted me at a personal level candidly. This way I was able to express to her that I felt enrolling her for the program would also transform her. This aspiration was confirmed when she went back to the school after the holiday she had taken the program. She was more assertive with her choices. She began engaging with teachers and expressing her struggles with various subjects. I could easily see her become her own self! This influenced my parenting as it came from a place of trust and love.
I let her understand that despite what, I will be always on her side. Yes, I will be a mother, a confidant and sometimes a counselor. But I would never judge or tear her down without an objective to build her up to become the woman she has always dreamt to be. My parenting to her has been shaped gradually. Currently, she called me when stuck with her young friends because of the vulnerability yet trusting relationship we’ve built together. Before, we wouldn’t share this kind of moments as she would end up feeling unsupported or attacked.
To any parent or guardian who is thinking about signing up her daughter, is to look at it from this perspective. The base of who your teenage daughter is and who belongs to isn’t something you can teach her. It shouldn’t be based on confusion or insecurities of the mistakes done from an early age by yourself as a parent. Rather, that this kind of self-identity and self-awareness, is solid and evident in how a girl leads her life. The program isn’t about a girl facing a challenge or a problem. It is about making a girl have clarity of her own identity, her ability to make decisions and a source of authority to come to.
If you have a daughter, mentee, granddaughter and you aspire to share a unique, fulfilling relationship.
Sign her up for the program HERE.
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