What comes to your mind when a woman introduces herself as a single mum? Think about it

The Renewing Self program was more than just a program for me. It was an experience! A journey of truly rediscovering myself! In this journey, I learned how to drop labels that I allowed to define me.

One of the labels I had allowed to define me for a long period of my life was ‘Single Mum’. I chose to drop this label. Let’s be honest, what do we think immediately someone calls herself a single mum? Disgrace to the family, shame to the family, burden to the family, promiscuous, why couldn’t you wait for marriage, why couldn’t you keep your marriage together? And the list goes on! Yes! Isn’t this what we often do?

I refuse to allow a cloud of shame to hover over my life. I am intentionally replacing the label of ‘single mum’ with a fine crown. [...]

How desperate are you for freedom? What price are you willing to pay to get unstuck in your life and move forward? Is it worth your time, money and energy?

The thought of being totally renewed made me commit to this personal journey.

Six years ago, I watched “My Unspoken” the TV program that Alabastron ran on NTV. I remember Googling and researching Alabastron after watching the program. I even followed Alabastron on social media. In 2018, I finally decided it was time to enroll.

The testimonials and videos I watched assured me that I would be equipped to handle the challenges and situations I was going through.

I was stuck and desperately wanted to get out of that space! Sigh! I was just done! I had carried a rejection tag since I was a child because I was a baby born out of wedlock. The stigma I felt was imprinted in my system. [...]

Have you ever felt so overwhelmed you wonder if you’ll ever get the strength to move on? Then a transformation happens to you giving you a new lease in life? This is the experience I had through my Renewing Self journey. It has been a journey of transformation from a caterpillar to a beautiful butterfly!

I first heard about Alabastron five years ago through a friend of mine. I even attended three open days. Yes, you heard me correctly! Three times! But I never felt ready for the program. Things changed when I met a woman in a counseling class I was pursuing.

She was always calm, well composed, and very assertive. When I reached out to her, she told me that she had taken an amazing program called Alabastron. She said, “If you attend the program, your life will never be the same again.” “All you admire in me is as a result of Alabastron.” She said confidently. [...]

Have you ever taken a journey that takes you to the deepest part of your soul? That is what Renewing Self has been for me. It has been a personal and unique journey for me!

I vividly remember the day Laimani came to speak about Alabastron at our church. It was my first time to hear about the program.

I heard about it again from my life group members. They said it touched on issues of the soul. What finally convinced me was when a close friend of mine did the program and what she said about it made me believe what I had heard about Alabastron. She urged me to do it saying it’s an experience I have to go through myself! That was a sure vote of confidence! [...]

Have you heard the phrase “the hunter became the hunted”? That’s my Alabastron story. I always knew I was okay, just minor issues here and there. So when my sister in-law told me about Alabastron I thought about my sister and I knew this program would sort her. In my head, I was seeking help for her. Lo and behold! I was the one who needed ‘sorting’! Everything at the Open Day resonated with what I was going through!

At that time, I was in a lot of emotional and psychological pain. I was angry at myself, people around me, my spouse and even God. I felt misunderstood, judged, guilty, lonely, insignificant, unnoticed, unwanted, unworthy and unloved. I had no self-identity. In fact, I had even stopped looking at myself in the mirror! I was honestly looking for an end to my pain. I even had suicidal thoughts.

I remember my spiritual mentor telling me one day that he had seen me being eulogized in my own burial! Talk about a dead woman walking! This was a confirmation to me that I was just awaiting physical death. All this while, few people, if any noticed that I was struggling. [...]